Nonverbal communication | Nomi Sunrider

I have taken this list and filtered my own symptoms out:

poor communication:

overformal speech: academic, strictly structured speech. The structure is always the same. As if we were using a given pattern.
speaking without any pitch or tone: monotonous and hard to listen to across a long period of time. Plus, Aspergers tend to explain everything in detail, giving very long speeches.
inappropriate remarks: The uttering of inappropriate comments or questions can be a serious problem. Sometimes the remarks are inappropriate to the setting. Sometimes the comments are sexually inappropriate. In any case, the remarks or questions do not take into account the impact on the other individual involved. For example, Conner was attending a funeral. Oblivious to the impact his question would have on the grieving friends and relatives, he wondered out loud about the process of bodies decomposing. In another example, Mike found himself attracted to a young woman and proceeded to stare at her. When she asked him what he wanted, he told her in sexually explicit details what he was staring at and the specific nature of his interest. source

few facial expression: inability to express one’s feelings and to adapt it to the expectations of other people. e.g. smiling at funeral. It also gives a boring look and makes us appear dumb.
unaware of unwritten social rules: contradicting the boss, flirting at funerals, involuntary provocation.

Social withdrawal : Unlike the severe withdrawal from the rest of the world that is characteristic of autism, children with Asperger syndrome are isolated because of their poor social skills and narrow interests. Children with the disorder will gather enormous amounts of factual information about their favorite subject and will talk incessantly about it, but the conversation may seem like a random collection of facts or statistics, with no point or conclusion. They may approach other people, but make normal conversation difficult by eccentric behaviors or by wanting only to talk about their singular interest. source
In my case, I feel squeezed when others are around.
Eccentric personality: Many people with Asperger’s appear to be “nerds” or “geeks.” Kind people might call us “eccentric.” Socially, we must learn by rote what your average person picks up by instinct, such as the interpretation of facial expressions, other’s emotions, or social overtures. source
Preoccupied with their own agenda
Socially non-adapted personality
limited interests: one or two
repetitive routines and rituals: i am constantly drinking water at work.
lack of empathy at short distance. Much empathy for fictional characters.
for an interesting view on the real empathy in Aspies, read this article.

extract: “When an aspie is listening/concentrating or deliberately trying to be emphatic, they achieve a level of empathy well beyond what neurotypical people experience.For example, when watching a movie, I find myself emoting with the characters to a huge degree, even when they’re CGI, Cartoons or fluffy muppets. I can’t help it. Often when I’m explaining things[…], I’ll get a lump in my throat[…].” signed

“Aspies don’t lack empathy, we have oodles of it and not just the human kind either. If an aspie has trouble understanding your emotional state it’s probably because it’s not visible enough for them to start looking deeper.”

Not to be found on the link:

poor organization skills:

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